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Manners, Knowledge, or Both?

At the ICNA convention this year, one of the speakers said that a person who possesses knowledge but lacks good manners is in a state of hypocrisy.  I think that it is due to this fact that so many people are turned off by religion.  I know of some sisters who are scared of religious brothers because of past experiences with domestic and emotional abuse.  This is really sad.  Imam Zaid Shakir actually discussed this at the RIHLA as well.

About the RIHLA: There were several books we read (and are still reading), including Purification of the Heart, Reflections of Pearls, and The Creed of Imam Al Tahawi.  One of my favorites however is Islamic Manners by Shaykh Abd al-Fattah Abu Ghuddah.  It was also the only book that I was not familiar with before coming to the RIHLA.  It is absolutely beautiful and practical.  Just as much as the Muslim must try to perfect their prayers and outer devotions to God, so too should they also perfect their manners and relations with others.  This reminds me of what Shaykh Husain Abdul Sattar said in a lecture once that God is more forgiving for the transgressions we commit against Him (prayer, fasting) than the transgressions we commit against other creations.  This is because we have to seek forgiveness from both the person we wronged against and God.

This book also reminded me of a beautiful article I read once called “Adab: The Sufi Art of Conscious Relationship” by Kabir Helminski.

Here is an excerpt:

“I have observed that children in Sufi families are lovingly given subtle cues about how to act and move throughout the world.  Abdulbaki Golpinarli, perhaps the greatest documentator of Sufi life in the last century wrote about his own upbringing in this way:

‘I remember that, when I was a child, if I walked quickly, or stamped my feet, people would say to me (not out of anger), What are you doing, Baki? What kind of a way is that to walk?  My child, everything has a heart, a life, a soul: wouldn’t the wood get hurt?  Look, it’s laid itself on the floor for us to walk on.  Shouldn’t we show respect, and not hurt it?’”

It is because of this emphasis on manners and good character in Islam that has made me somewhat place outward devotional acts below inward devotion and character. Don’t misunderstand me, both are extremely important.  To have one and not the other is hypocrisy.  But for example, I don’t think I could tell a sister that she should wear hijab.  The fact that I am spending time with her and already wearing one is enough pressure as it is.  At the end of the day, covering your hair is not as important as controlling one’s anger, forgiving others, and displaying selflessness.  What kind of representation of Islam would a hijabi be displaying if she continually backbited others and told people off instead of holding her anger in?  I know a few sisters who became discouraged from coming to the MSA for the same reason.

May God allow us to incorporate the best manners into our characters and spread beauty through this medium.  Ameen.

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RIHLA 2009!

I am currently at the Deen Intensive’s RIHLA 2009 program at Maryland. We are up from Fajr (dawn) until Isha. (They do give us breaks in between to nap).

So far I have listened to Ustadh Yahya Rhodus, Imam Zaid Shakir, Shaykh Hamza Yusuf, and Shaykh Faraz Rabbani.

I will write more later inshAllah, Imam Zaid is about to speak.
:)
Alhamdulilah Rabbi ‘Alameen-Praise be to God, Lord of the Worlds

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Moses and the Shephard – Amazing Poem by Rumi

Turn your back in repentance to Him, and fear Him: establish regular prayers, and be not amongst those who join gods with God, those who split up their Religion, and become (mere) Sects,- each party rejoicing in that which is with itself!
-Surah Rum 31-32

Muslims are so bewildered and confused these days by the massive amount of trivial differences that exist between different Islamic sects.  At the end of the day everyone should realize that it is our burning for God that matters.  I love this poem, read it and you will understand what I mean by burning.

Moses and the Shepherd
Jalaluddin Rumi

Moses heard a shepherd on the road praying, God,
where are You? I want to help You, to fix Your shoes
and comb Your hair. I want to wash Your clothes
and pick the lice off. I want to bring You milk,
to kiss Your little hands and feet when it’s time
for You to go to bed. I want to sweep Your room
and keep it neat. God, my sheep and goats
are Yours. All I can say, remembering You,
is ayyyy and ahhhhhhhhh.

Moses could stand it no longer.
Who are you talking to?
The One who made us,
and made the earth and made the sky.
Don’t talk about shoes
and socks with God! And what’s this with Your little hands
and feet? Such blasphemous familiarity sounds like
you’re chatting with your uncles.
Only something that grows
needs milk. Only someone with feet needs shoes. Not God!
Even if you meant God’s human representatives
as when God said, I was sick, and you did not visit me,
even then this tone would be foolish and irreverent.

Use appropriate terms. Fatima is a fine name
for a woman, but if you call a man Fatima,
it’s an insult. Body-and-birth language
are right for us on this side of the river,
but not for addressing the Origin,
not for Allah.

The shepherd repented and tore his clothes and sighed
and wandered out into the desert.
A sudden revelation
came then to Moses. God’s voice:

You have separated Me
from one of my own. Did you come as a Prophet to unite,
or to sever?
I have given each being a separate and unique way
of seeing and knowing and saying that knowledge.

What seems wrong to you is right for him.
What is poison to one is honey to someone else.
Purity and impurity, sloth and diligence in worship,
these mean nothing to Me.
I am apart from all that.
Ways of worshiping are not to be ranked as better
or worse than one another.

It’s all praise, and it’s all
right.
It’s not Me that’s glorified in acts of worship.
It’s the worshipers! I don’t hear the words
they say. I look at the humility.
That broken-open lowliness is the Reality,
not the language! Forget phraseology.
I want burning,
burning.
Be friends
with your burning. Burn up your thinking
and your forms of expression!

Moses,
those who pay attention to ways of behaving
and speaking are one sort.
Lovers who burn
are another.

Don’t impose a property tax
on a burned out village. Don’t scold the Lover.
The wrong way he talks is better than a hundred
right ways of others.

Inside the Kaaba
it doesn’t matter which direction you point
your prayer rug!
The ocean diver doesn’t need snowshoes!
The Love-Religion has no code or doctrine.
Only God.
So the ruby has nothing engraved on it!
It doesn’t need markings.

God began speaking deeper mysteries to Moses. Vision and words,
which cannot be recorded here, poured into
and through him. He left himself and came back.
He went to Eternity and came back here.
Many times this happened.
It’s foolish of me
to try and say this. If I did say it,
it would uproot our human intelligences.
It would shatter all writing pens.

Moses ran after the shepherd.
He followed the bewildered footprints,
in one place moving straight like a castle
across a chessboard. In another, sideways,
like a bishop.
Now surging like a wave cresting,
now sliding down like a fish,
with always his feet
making geomancy symbols in the sand,
recording
his wandering state.
Moses finally caught up
with him.

I was wrong. God has revealed to me
that there are no rules for worship.
Say whatever
and however your loving tells you to. Your sweet blasphemy
is the truest devotion. Through you a whole world
is freed.
Loosen your tongue and don’t worry what comes out.
It all the Light of the Spirit.

The shepherd replied,
Moses, Moses,
I’ve gone beyond even that.
You applied the whip and my horse shied and jumped
out of itself. The Divine Nature and my human nature
came together.
Bless your scolding hand and your arm.
I can’t say what has happened.
What I’m saying now
is not my real condition. It can’t be said.
The shepherd grew quiet.

When you look in a mirror,
you see yourself, not the state of the mirror.
The fluteplayer puts breath into a flute,
and who makes the music? Not the flute.
The Fluteplayer!

Whenever you speak praise
or thanksgiving to God, it’s always like this
dear shepherd’s simplicity.
When you eventually see
through the veils of how things really are,
you will keep saying again
and again,
This is certainly not like we thought it was!

Mathnawi II 1720-96, from This Longing: Poetry, Teaching Stories, and Selected Letters, translated by Coleman Barks and John Moyne (Putney, Vt.: Threshold Books, 1988), pp. 19-22.

I left out one line in the poem because some people will not understand it.  Also, when the shephard says that his Divine Nature and Human Nature have combined, he is merely discussing this authentic hadith:

Abu Hurayra said that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said, God Almighty said, I have declared war on anyone who shows enmity to a friend of Mine. My slave does not draw near to Me with anything I love more than what I have made obligatory on him. And my slave continues to draw near to Me with superogatory actions until I love him. When I love him, I become his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. If he were to ask Me for something, I would give it to him. If he were to ask Me for refuge, I would give him refuge. [al-Bukhari]

That is one of my favorite ahadeeth ever.  MashAllah.

Form vs Meaning:

Our body is the outward form, our soul is the inner meaning.  Ritual prayer, Fiqh, and Aqeedah is the form, our love, humility, and devotion to God is the meaning.  What this poem is doing is highlighting the similarity of the soul of all religions-which is found in our burning, passionate love for a Higher Being.

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